Soul Sunday: Comparison and self love 

 “A flower does not compete with the flower next to it. It just blooms.” 

This quote is something I’m always trying to keep in mind. With Instagram, Facebook and the media constantly infiltrating our minds and making us feel inferior, it’s so crucial to remember this simple mantra.

I know firsthand how looking at someone else’s highlight reel can make you feel small and even worthless. It’s so easy to come to the conclusion that there’s always someone more beautiful, more fit, more successful than you, so why even try? 

These thoughts invade my consciousness all too often, so this post is a reminder to me and to anyone else who’s going through the same thing. Stop comparing yourself to others!

At first, when I heard this phrase, I thought of it in such a negative way. I thought it meant you’ll never measure up, so just stop even trying to align yourself with someone you admire. But that’s not what I should have taken from it at all. 

Now, when I hear that phrase, I know that the meaning it carries with it is much more complex and nuanced than what I originally thought. Some people (including me from time to time) see things in such a black and white way that it’s hard to see past the categories and labels we place on people. 

Just last week I read an article called “why hot girls never have boyfriends.” What this article missed is that the world isn’t made up of two groups of people: hot or not. Everyone is different and special in their own way. While some people might be attracted to one aesthetic, others are attracted to something completely different.

What I’m trying to say is that if the world was made up of two types of people, it would be a very boring place indeed. On the contrary, the world is a tapestry of billions of different people, all with diverse traits and characteristics. 

It’s easy to look at someone beautiful and smart and determine that they’re above you and it’ll never be different. But you, too are beautiful in your own way – even if you don’t see it right now! Somewhere out there someone is looking at you saying the same thing. 

While it’s easier said than done, I hope this message gets across to you so you can be at peace with yourself and learn to admire other people without jealousy or sadness. Just for today, try putting your phone in a drawer and meditating, or make a list of all the things you like about yourself to take one small step towards self love.

Having confidence isn’t something that comes easy or right away. I’m still working towards this goal every day. You will have setbacks and bad days and negative thoughts, but like most things that require hard work, the payoff will be so worth it! 

What do you like to do to bump up your confidence and stop comparing yourself to others? Let me know in the comments! 

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